Shibari is about tying or getting tied with rope. You can get tied, tie somebody else, tie yourself, and switch between all of these practices depending on your own desires, boundaries and fantasies.
The ropes can be about so many different things and all dependent on those involved. It can be a sexual practice, it can be about restraint or abundance; letting go, giving in, control or lack thereof. Rope can be useful to explore while thinking about it as a dance or as a way of communicating with someone.
Hedwig is passionate about communication, rope bondage, safer sex and consent culture, about redressing notions of power, physical sensations, vulnerability, dominance and submission, gender and communities working together.
She hopes to bring rope bondage to a larger audience as a way to gain more body awareness, work on interpersonal communication and offer different routes to pleasure and surrender.
Hitchin’ Bitches is a network for female identified riggers and rope tops that I started in late 2011 together with a couple of friends in London. We did this because we felt like we wanted to create a safe space for women who are into to rope; a space to learn and to share in.
Despite ropes getting more and popular, we saw mostly men tying women and not so much of the female rope tops. Most of those who teach, demo and perform are men. Most pictures we see of rope are of women tied up. We did not feel this reflected the reality in which we live in, where women and non-binary gender id’d folks tie, have skills and knowledge to share.