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20 Aug My femme is not for you

Posted at 11:07h in BDSM, Feminism, Gender, Guest blogger, Kinbaku, Politics, Rope, Shibari by Hedwig 1 Comment

In the wake of the previous post on femininity and rope Honey Bare, another fantablous femme published this post on FL and I asked if it was possible to publish it here as well. And it was! Thank you Honey Bare. recently i was talking with...

16 Aug Body vocabulary- this femme is tying

Posted at 09:52h in Bottoming, Community, Feminism, Gender, Kinbaku, Play, Politics, Rope by Hedwig 4 Comments

I have been thinking about femininity and rope. Or rather expressions of femininity and rope. Ginger Rogers once danced with that Fred guy and said that she does everything Fred does but backwards and in heels. When I first came out on the scene I...

17 Jul The performative rope; London Shibarifestival 2013

Posted at 18:26h in BDSM, Community, Kinbaku, Play, Rope by Hedwig 0 Comments

Another backlog post, which was written in 2013. The discussions about performance and it’s relation to rope has started taking off, especially because of the increasing numbers of events catering to performance. In this post, I will add my own thoughts to that discussion, as well...

18 Jun Tied by Takeshi Nagiake

Posted at 16:44h in BDSM, Bottoming, Community, Kinbaku, Rope, Shibari by Hedwig 0 Comments

Another piece written in 2013. I am going through my ropes again after the long weekend that was Shibaricon. Have done it a couple of times already, but there is a somewhat therapeutic aspect of letting the strands of rope move through the hands. When I...

15 Jun Tears and rope

Posted at 16:39h in BDSM, Kinbaku, Play, Rope by Hedwig 0 Comments

This is an old writing I'm republishing. Gorgone is an amazing rope artist and I will always feel honored she trusted me that evening. The smoke lingers in the kitchen like the fog of Lutzen. Nina Russ is doing her usual style of Duracell hostess. Duracell...

12 Jun We came so far for beauty

Posted at 12:06h in BDSM, Community, Feminism, Gender, Kinbaku, Play, Politics, Rope, Shibari by Hedwig 0 Comments

Written in March 2014. It is almost year ago since last Shibaricon. A year ago since I made a promise to myself and to my partners in rope. A year ago since I had the best time of my life. One of my favorite musicals...

10 Jun We are not your pretty

Posted at 20:57h in BDSM, Community, Kinbaku, Play, Rope, Shibari by Hedwig 0 Comments

Pumped up. Adrenaline is shooting through my body already. We are changing the plans. I’m furious, and my focus has shifted. Furious at the world, protective of you. Protective enough that I want to hurt you You sink into my ropes but I keep you unbalanced, keeping...

27 Mar So you want to attend a rope class?

Posted at 17:34h in Community, Rope by Hedwig 1 Comment

With the increasing amount of rope knowledge being exchanged and the access that we have to rope education, the experience of learning is not just about the content but also how we learn the best and from whom we wish to be inspired. I do...

27 Mar 10 things you can do to support gender equality in the rope community

Posted at 04:20h in BDSM, Community, Feminism, Kinbaku, Politics, Rope, Shibari by Hedwig 3 Comments

Update April 2016: This post has been updated to better reflect all sides of the rope equation, including especially rope partnerships and bottoming. I never actually wanted to have to start Hitchin' Bitches. I don't want to live in a patriarchal, sexist society which holds men and...

07 May The way He saw Her

Posted at 21:39h in Kinbaku, Rope, Shibari by Hedwig 1 Comment

I take a deep breath and look around. S is crying. N is crying. Someone who’s name I don’t know is crying. I’m trying to wipe away the tears from my face. Everyone around me is looking slightly dazed, slightly confused. I breathe out, feeling...